What Does it Really Mean to Cherish Your Time?

As I mentioned in yesterday’s blog post “Life Lessons From Parents” I had the opportunity to visit my aging parents this weekend.  As usual, they offered me guidance and the unconditional love that only our parents can offer.  I sat down and talked with them about what was going on in my life, and what my goals were for the next few months.  I asked them how they have been, and if they are adjusting well to be empty nesters.  My dad told me that he has been cherishing his time, and living each day as if it was his last.  Those words got me thinking “What does it really mean to cherish our time?”

It is so easy to get caught up in the grind of life that sometimes we lose track of time.  Most people have goals they want to achieve.  It may be working your butt off to get a promotion at work to take your career to new levels,  saving money for a rainy day or to pay down debt, getting your college diploma to get in the door.  The point is that goals take time, and commitment to achieve.  How many people really ask themselves what is the true value of their time, and is the goal worth the cost of losing it.

Now, I am not saying that goals are bad.  I believe that we need to set goals in order to stay on course in life.  What I am saying though is that we need to incorporate reflection into our daily grind. Spending time during the course of the day to think about accomplishments outside of work, and school.

I spent some time yesterday thinking about what truly matters to me.  I thought a lot about how lucky I am to have a supportive spouse who loves me for who I am, I thought about how fortunate I am to have a great roof over my head in a safe neighborhood, and I thought about my parents, and what their guidance and support truly mean to me.  After reflecting for a few hours the answer to my question “What does it mean to cherish our time?” finally dawned on me.  Cherishing our time is not another action or time commitment.  It is the process of being thankful for what we are given.

If you are truly thankful for the blessing you have in your life it will trickle down into your attitude during the course of the day.  Personally, I am still new to this cherishing time stuff.  However, I hope that being more thankful for what I have will allow me to stop focusing on the things that I can not control or the goals that I have not attained.

Do yourself a favor.  Slow down, and focus on what is really important.  Thanks for speaking wisdom Dad……I heard you.

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Ageism a Growing Epidemic

Ageism: A Growing Epidemic

The mankind is experiencing longer age than ever. There are several reasons behind it. One of these can be the increased development in the field of medicine. Whatever the reasons are, the age expectancy is increasing. As a result, we have to strive much harder than before for the survival. Due to the long duration of age, the years of working also increases. Not every government has the capacity to support the citizens. The long span of working has created several issues and one of the major issues is ageism.

About ageism:

The ageism is used to refer the profound and deep prejudice against the elderly population of a country. In short, it can be said that ageism is a stereotyped behavior with the aged people due to their old age. The concept is growing with every passing day in almost every society. However, the extent can vary from culture to culture. There are several examples that can be seen in the television, movies, stores, advertisements, hospitals and especially at the workplaces.

Ageism exists in different forms when it comes to the workplace. The first one is during the employment when employees have to face discriminatory behavior due to several reasons. The next form of ageism prevails in the hiring process. This one is considered to be the most difficult one and it is hard to control it. It is a bitter truth that companies prefer to hire people of young age instead of the ones that have years of experience and expertise.

The effects of ageism:

A human is a social animal, they cannot live without the support of each other. Each and every single action has a great impact on the people. This is the case with ageism too. Whenever someone faces discriminatory behavior on the basis of age, they experience some negative impacts. A study conducted by a psychologist Becca Levy shows that old people undergo hurtful feelings due to ageism. Also, it will have a negative impact on their lifespan.

On the other hand, if the old age people are treated with extreme care and they are provided with the respect they deserve, there are chances of mental growth in that age too. Moreover, the increase of contentment with the life is also noted. Highlighting the issue of ageism is a result of the collaboration of different institutions like media or peer. Media has the power to portray the message to the whole society and when something happens on a large scale, it becomes a part of the culture. The psychologists also related the growing number of plastic surgeries of old age people to the issue of ageism. Combating ageism has become an essential concern for all the cultures around the world. New techniques and methods should be created to solve the issues faced by the aged population.

Workplace Ageism

AGEISM AND THE WORKPLACE

Discriminating against anyone in the workplace simply because of their assumed or actual age is against the law. Every stage of employment including recruitment, terms and conditions of the workplace, and dismissal are all protected by the law for employees. Assumptions and stereotypes about seniors and young people can affect the decisions taken in a workplace in a great way.

The elderly and younger employees sometimes experience discrimination in their place of work due to their age range. This act is what is known as ageism. Employers are basically not allowed to use the age of a person as a criteria to hire, promote, fire, or decide the level of compensation a person can get. However, determining whether an employer used age as a factor to determine his/her actions can be quite difficult to denote as he/she can say they had the genuine belief that someone else could do the job in a better way. Most states have fact finding procedures that help employees determine whether they have been victims of ageism and to help them assert their rights.

Some of the ways in which age discrimination can be portrayed in employment include;

  • Making advert for someone to be part of a “dynamic, young team”.
  • Not employing older workers, assuming/ jumping into the conclusion that they will soon retire
  • Not employing youthful workers, assuming/jumping into the conclusion that they will move on to another job soon.
  • Not rendering interviews simply because the person is too old or too young to “fit in” with other employees.
  • Forcing someone to retire, or making choices around redundancy because of someone’s age.
  • Not providing older or youthful employees with training opportunities because it’s not “worth it”.

MATURE-AGE WORKERS RESOURCE

Ageism or age discrimination against mature age workers is quite rampant. Senior workers commonly complain about them experiencing discrimination when applying for jobs simply because of their age. There are also complaints of being overlooked for promotion and training. Also some seniors are being forced by employers to take redundancy packages or go into retirement. The truth of the matter is that ageism and compulsory retirement are not just against the law, they are also bad for business and very costly for the community and the employers also.

ARE ALL SENIORS PROTECTED UNDER THE LAW AGAINST AGEISM

No, not all older workers are protected by the law. There are some exceptions, and these exceptions are listed below;

  • Employees in “high policy making decision” or other executives can be asked to retire at the age of sixty five as long as they will be provided with an annual retirement pension benefit worth forty four thousand dollars or more.
  • Special exceptions are in place for fire and police personnel, certain federal employees and tenured university faculty that have jobs related to law enforcement, and air traffic control. Should you find yourself in any of these exceptions, you may want to consult your attorney or your personnel office for more details.
  • There is also an exception when age is a vital requirement for the job. This is legally known as BFOQ, “bona fide occupational qualification”. For instance, if a teen clothing store is in need of models, or a company wants an actor to play the role of a ten year old, the ability to look youthful is an essential part of the job or a BFOQ.
Combating Ageism

5 Ways You Can Combat Ageism

Ageism, a termed coined in 1969 and patterned on sexism and racism, is discrimination or prejudice based on a person’s age. This prejudice is problematic because it can affect a person’s quality of life, confidence, job prospects and financial situation.

Ageism also includes the way in which older people are portrayed in the media. How the media chooses to portray older people has an impact on the public’s attitudes towards them, and can actually encourage ageism.

How to recognise ageism

If you experience any of the following, you may have experienced ageism:

  • Being refused membership to a club or trade association because of age.
  • Losing your job only because of your age.
  • Being refused a new credit card, interest-free credit, car insurance or travel insurance because of your age.
  • Being refused a referral from your doctor to a consultant because of age.

There are provisions for some these in the law. For the moment, Medicare is only available to older Americans, and the fair trade prevent unfair dismissal in some cases.

5 ways to combat ageism

Discrimination of any kind is unacceptable, so take it because of your age. Here are 5 things you can do:

  1. Be active

This doesn’t mean you have to go to the gym, or even run every morning. Taking a daily walk, and make sure you get out of the house as often as possible. There are gentle exercises you can do that won’t cause problems.

It’s not just physical exercise. Stay mentally active, follow the news, read, write, draw—live in the present, and look to the future.

  1. Speak up

Don’t allow yourself to be pushed around just because you’re older. Participate when you’re given the opportunity instead of sitting on the sidelines.

  1. Be positive

If you’ve made it past 50, you’re doing well. How you approach live, and how you view your age plays a huge role in how other people will perceive you. Be positive, and revel in your experience.

  1. Be as independent as possible

This ties in to the previous point. If you assume your age prevents you from certain activities: you won’t do them. Do your own banking, go to the shops on your own—why not eat out in a restaurant every once in a while?

  1. Stay up to date with technology

Learning how to use email, social media and texting effectively is a great way to stimulate your brain as well as keep in touch with friends and family. This will also buck the stereotype that older people can’t learn how to use new technology.

Ageism and what’s next

The Republican’s health plan could severely hinder their ability to pay for day-to-day necessities. And business know younger people are cheaper, and so easier to pay, this puts a lot of older Americans in a position of financial dependence on a national government that doesn’t want to help them.

Ageism in American is systemic, and causing older Americans a lot of problems. Fighting ageism, and talking about it, is an important role.