What Does it Really Mean to Cherish Your Time?

As I mentioned in yesterday’s blog post “Life Lessons From Parents” I had the opportunity to visit my aging parents this weekend.  As usual, they offered me guidance and the unconditional love that only our parents can offer.  I sat down and talked with them about what was going on in my life, and what my goals were for the next few months.  I asked them how they have been, and if they are adjusting well to be empty nesters.  My dad told me that he has been cherishing his time, and living each day as if it was his last.  Those words got me thinking “What does it really mean to cherish our time?”

It is so easy to get caught up in the grind of life that sometimes we lose track of time.  Most people have goals they want to achieve.  It may be working your butt off to get a promotion at work to take your career to new levels,  saving money for a rainy day or to pay down debt, getting your college diploma to get in the door.  The point is that goals take time, and commitment to achieve.  How many people really ask themselves what is the true value of their time, and is the goal worth the cost of losing it.

Now, I am not saying that goals are bad.  I believe that we need to set goals in order to stay on course in life.  What I am saying though is that we need to incorporate reflection into our daily grind. Spending time during the course of the day to think about accomplishments outside of work, and school.

I spent some time yesterday thinking about what truly matters to me.  I thought a lot about how lucky I am to have a supportive spouse who loves me for who I am, I thought about how fortunate I am to have a great roof over my head in a safe neighborhood, and I thought about my parents, and what their guidance and support truly mean to me.  After reflecting for a few hours the answer to my question “What does it mean to cherish our time?” finally dawned on me.  Cherishing our time is not another action or time commitment.  It is the process of being thankful for what we are given.

If you are truly thankful for the blessing you have in your life it will trickle down into your attitude during the course of the day.  Personally, I am still new to this cherishing time stuff.  However, I hope that being more thankful for what I have will allow me to stop focusing on the things that I can not control or the goals that I have not attained.

Do yourself a favor.  Slow down, and focus on what is really important.  Thanks for speaking wisdom Dad……I heard you.

Seven Life Lessons To Ponder!

Seven Life Lessons To Ponder!

This is a guest post written by: Tom Mobley (http://mobleyhr.com/)

Having in all likelihood lived half of my life I am finding myself at a very interesting place. I am now in year 6 of dealing with my mothers Alzheimer journey. During that time I have had a kid graduate high school, soon to graduate college and then get married. Another child is set to graduate high school. And our third child is now a teenager. I lost a job after 10+ years with the same company not once but twice. However now find myself happier than ever in my work. As a child I was raised by a single parent who never married. Recently I discovered that the person whom I thought was my father, is not really my father. And in the last week an older brother who was put up for adoption 4 years before I was born has discovered me.

Honestly at times I want a do-over, but life doesn’t work that way, we can only “do-forward”. To say that I have been reflecting a lot lately is an understatement. With that in mind, here are seven things for us to consider.

1. We all make mistakes and they will follow us. Some times what starts off as some thing small ends up being huge over time.

2. Things may not always be what they appear.

3. No good deed goes unpunished.

4. There will always be reactions to your actions.

5. Some may not understand what you did, others will disagree with it and some will celebrate your struggles.

6. You rarely will go wrong with truth and transparency.

7. Seeking guidance through prayers and/or meditation is always a good idea, but we need to rely on this from the start and not toward the end. We might not have as many problems if we did.

Happy pondering!